So Long, Insecurity

Okay – before I start this post I need to say something.  Beth Moore and I probably have very different interpretations about certain parts of the bible, religion and faith.

That being said … what she is doing is incredible.

Beth Moore cares about women.  She wants to empower women.  She wants women to see that they are just as important and special in the eyes of God as men are.  I may not agree with everything she says, but I respect her ministry and the impact she has on thousands of women all around the world.

So Long, Insecurity
you’ve been a bad friend to us
by, Beth Moore

I decided to buy this book after (strangely enough) having a conversation with the woman who was helping us purchase a copier for the church.  She noticed the new TV in my office and I told her that I was setting us up for DVD bible studies.  We got to talking about Beth Moore’s bible studies and after she left I started looking up some of Moore’s books.  I ordered this and another one (this is her most recent book).

I am going to make a bold statement (one that I do not often make):  I think every woman needs to read this book.

Regardless of whether or not I agree with everything Beth said in this book, the fact of the matter is most women struggle with some sort of insecurity.  Some of these insecurities they acknowledge, some they do not.  Some these insecurities they know about, others they may not even realize are there.  These insecurities impact both their day-to-day lives and their relationships.  Beth Moore helps women to identify some of their specific insecurities, reassures them that they are not alone in their struggle and offers some practical tools for their journey forward.

I learned a few things from this book.  First of all, I need to do a better job of accepting people where they are.  I try, but I know that I can do better.  Everyone is dealing with insecurities that are making them act and react the way that they do.  Myself included.

This book also really drove home the fact that you cannot change people (nor should you want to).  I truly believe that people can change and that they can change in intrinsic and transformational ways.  But that change has to come from within.  In the meantime all we can do it accept people where they are, pray for them and our relationship with them and trust that God’s grace truly can overcome human imperfections.

Here is some food for thought from the book …

“Insecurity’s best cover is perfectionism.  That’s where it becomes an art form.” <- this is where she got my attention

“Life really is hard.  No one can escape it.  No one is unscathed by it.  But we are not just flailing aimlessly in a universal black hole.  There is purpose.  There is order – because there is God.”

“I want to be part of a coalition of women who feel the same way.  Not bitter women.  Not angry women.  Not women with an ax to grind.  Gracious, loving women who have found some relief and release.  I don’t doubt that it was the beginning of this book.” <- So do I.  So do I.

“I believe our greatest challenge as women is to avoid trying to control someone toward what we’re genuinely convinced is a better life.”

“One of the most common human claims is that we can’t change the way we feel.  That may be true, but we can change the way we think, which will change the way we act.  And as we change the way we act, the way we feel also begins to change.”

“The thing is, we don’t just need help with insecurity.  We need healing.”

“Our constant propensity to compare ourselves to the women around us is wrecking our perceptions of both ourselves and them.”

5 thoughts on “So Long, Insecurity

  1. Can you imagine the insecurity compounded by a disability? When you have a disability, the insecurity becomes exacerbated and raw…it’s like Paul Simon’s lyric…it’s like a window to your heart, everybody sees your blown apart, everyone see’s the wind blow. I thank the good Lord for the gift of the holy spirit.

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